09 Sep

Watch out, this is the depressing edition. This will not be funny. I am angry and sad.

So some of you may know that my dad died last February after a battling Parkinson disease and other issues. And I may have ranted somewhere that life is NOT FAIR, and bad things happen to good people. Well, it happened again.

My parents are very good friends with a family, the father of which was one of my dad’s doctors for a very long time until he (the doctor) retired. My parents stayed friends with them. The doctor and his adult daughter were at our house after my dad died. They have always been supportive. Well, the doctor has been battling cancer for a couple of years but was winning. Although in his 80’s, he still had years left in him, and he was very up beat and active.

Last week he had some type of body scan that shows tumors. He had a tumor. So he went into surgery and they removed it and ran all sorts of tests and it was benign. And he came though the surgery fine and was doing well. Then later the his daughter noticed he wasn’t looking good so called the Infection Disease specialists and a doctor came and prescribed antibiotics because nobody had given him any yet. And nobody gave him any antibiotics for nearly 24 hours after the doctor prescribed them!

His daughter and wife left the room for a little bit, either to go to the cafeteria or to go home for a bit, my mom had forgotten which, and when they came back he had tubes going in and out and was in a stupor. He died and they didn’t have a chance to say goodbye. .

The fucking hospital killed him because of carelessness and mismanagement. One doctor said he could have lived at least another few years if he hadn’t come in for the surgery that resulted in an infection because he wasn’t given antibiotics soon enough. So a man who spent the majority of his life helping other people get better died in a hospital for NO FUCKING REASON. There are just no words to express how infuriating this is. I hope his family sues, not for money because they don’t need it, but to stop things like this from happening again.

The hospital was Cedars-Sinai in Beverly Hills. My mom also knows two other people who came out much worse than when they went in to that hospital, so don’t ever go there.


Posted by on September 9, 2010 in complaints, dad, family


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  1. bookjunkie

    September 9, 2010 at 10:45 am

    when bad thing happen to good people, it wrenches my heart in two. You post made me so sad.

    I lost my dad too so I know how hard it must have been for you. It’s still hard for me to talk about it. It was some years ago but it doesn’t really get that much easier. The missing is just as bad.

    • harlsmits

      September 9, 2010 at 6:12 pm

      I’m sorry I made you sad!

      Some people tell me it will get easier, and then others tell me it won’t. I just know I’ll always miss him. This Tuesday, Sept. 14th, will be his 69th birthday. He and my mom were married 41 years. One of the things that upsets me the most is that he won’t be around for any grandkids.

      I just try to concentrate on happy memories. Except now I’m about to cry thinking about everything.

      • bookjunkie

        September 10, 2010 at 7:03 am

        My dad would have been 69 on Oct 15th. Wow! what a coincidence πŸ™‚ I feel like you’re my kindered spirit πŸ™‚ sending you hugs!!

        I find it hard to talk to anyone about my dad because not many people understand. The other day I had a dream where I was hugging him so tight and protecting him (preventing him from dying – which is a recurring theme in my dreams). I could actually physically feel like I was hugging him even though it was a dream. Sometimes dreams feel very real. I guess it’s my way of coping. I often feel that when I lost my dad I lost my confidante as well. I am also noticing how much I look like him and how similar I am to him in so many things. I never quite noticed it before. I did…but that as much as I do now.


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